VIDEO 2 UP!!! WATCH AND COMMENT!!!

      Ok so this next video is about the stages of a relationship just like my previous post. I had a lot of fun putting this video together, the people in the video are my cousin, brother and uncle. We were at my grandparents anniversary party and I talked them into making my video. It was fun and so funny to record them. It was actually raining and a bunch of the little kids that were there kept wanting to be in the movie so they were all standing around the filming area. It was hard to try and get them not to over act but w.e it turned out good I think.

Funny story: The car they were in is my parents van, they parked the car next to the garage facing the fence and the back yard, so we pretended for them to act like they were driving LOL! is was FUN!

*oh and the guy Tae Yang that my cousin keeps talking about is a famous Korean pop star that she is madly in love with hahaha!

Ok so I guess I didn't think it was going to be that bad of a quality

so the first scene is: Infactuation and courtship

second scene (car scene): power struggle (jealousy, insecurity)

third scene: Awareness, transformation and acceptence

ENJOY THE VIDEO!!!

Stages of a relationship

There are stages to every relationship, but these are the main ones that tend to happen in a long lasting relationship.

STAGE 1: Infactuation and courtship

 Everyone knows how it feels to be infactuated by another person. Everyone knows how it is to have that warm fuzzy feeling inside of you. The beginning stage of a relationship starts off by you two feeling like there is no one else in the world but you two. Each person tends to think about the other person constantly and want to be with that person at all times. This is when you get all the butterflies in the world and don't care about the stupid immature things that the other person does because you are BLIND by how amazing they are. I'm sure everyone has their ways of describing the first stage or maybe its a feeling you can't explain.

STAGE 2: Power Struggle

 This is when you two start to notice the little things about one another and adjust to reality. Minor arguments will start breaking out and can maybe escalate to bigger fights that can lead to breakups. This stage is when couples must learn to work together and put aside their differences to compromise. They must understand and communicate inorder to overcome their problems. But for some couples it can take years to get pass this stage if they don't cooperate. And you DO NOT want to be stuck in this stage because it then leads to an unhealthy relationship.

STAGE 3: Idenity formation and re-evaluation

 This stage is the most crucial for all relationships. It's either make it or break it. At this point of the relationship both of you begin to evaulate the love you have for each other and if you still want to be with each other. This is the dead end for the relationship and you two are stuck. Feelings and emotions start to come into play and intimacy can start to disappear. At this point both of you might be confused and affairs care most likely to occur. This stage is the hardest and it shows each of your true emotions. Many couples don't past this stage because there is a lack of communication, patience, understanding and trust.

STAGE 4: Awareness, and transformation

 After passing stage 3 this stage is also most important because its where you two reconnect and realize your needs for one another. Its when the war is over and you both have survived and its the time to rekindle your love. Yes I know it sounds corny but its the truth. This is when the couple realizes that they are better then what they use to be and can now do anything. There is now acceptence, understanding, patience, love, trust, and communication.

STAGE 5: Accepting

 There are few that make it to this stage but this is when each person is fully mature about the realtionship or can handle it. It's when responsibilites are understood and accepted to keep the relationship strong. About less than 5% of all couples make it to this stage, so be proud of yourself and you guys because YOU MADE IT!

 

"Expert" interview-Fealy

I chose to interview Mrs. Fealy because she is the social worker at the school. Also i figured she'd have a good input on relationships. All the questions are honestly answered so please respect her thoughts.

1. What's your definition of a healthy relationship?

-A healthy relationship is one that has trust, communication, partnership, humor and caring.
 2. What's your definition of love?

-Love is a difficult word to define, I would say it is when you care about someone so much you know you want them to be a part of your life for a long time (or forever)

3. What advice would you give to a teen in a serious relationship?

- It depends…if it is a healthy relationship, my number one advice would be to make sure you have your own space and be yourself.  What I mean by that is, sometimes people can get caught up in each other so much they lose themselves in the relationship.
 
4. What advice would you give somone who is in a abusive relationship?

- I would give them some ways to handle the situation and empower them to remove themselves from the relationship.  They have to recognize first that it is an unhealthy relationship.  We also have other resources available to us that I can tap into for assistance.  Many people in abusive relationships are either hoping things will change or the do not know any better.  Sometimes education is needed on what is a healthy relationship and go from there. 

5. What trait do you think is the most important in a relationship?

- COMMUNICATION

6. When/how old were you when you first knew you were in love?

-Hmm…first “young” love, probably 15years old.  Real love…19 or 20?!?! 

7. Do you think there is a age limit to love? why?

-I am not sure…sometimes I feel yes, sometimes no.  It depends if it is healthy love and real.  I was young when I got married so I would be a hypocrite if I said YES.  J

8. Do you think age is just a number? why?

-Sometimes…it depends on the situation.

Be thankful

If you are in a relationship and know that the person you are with loves you a lot, even more than you than please BE THANKFUL!!! especially if you are the one that causes most of the problems in the relationship or if you are the one that needs to work on some things, be thankful.

If you are with someone that takes all your BULL****, after all the arguements and mistreatment you give them and they are still in love with you, please BE THANKFUL!!!

If you and your love one have been through ups and downs and he or she still is able to tell you they love and care for you everyday then please BE THANKFUL!!!

If YOU are the one that causes all the problems and are impatient and he or she is willing to deal with everything because they love you then BE THANKFUL!

Be thankful that you have someone that loves you more than you love them. I personally think that if it was between you loving someone more than they love you or having someone love you more than you love them i would have to chose someone loving you more than you love them.

1. Be thankful that there is someone that can take all your BULL****
2. Be thankful that there is someone who will always be there for you
3. Be thankful that there is someone who loves you for who you are
4. Be thankful that they don't leave you
5. Be thankful that they still have hope in your relationship even though things have been so rough
6. Be thankful that after everything they can still find a way to love you and forgive the things you did.

BUT....remember that a person can only take everything in for so long until they say enough is enough and leave you. Don't wait until then for you to realize what you are thankful for and what was great is now gone.

Take some time to listen to these songs
                                            Bon Jovi- Thankyou for loving me

Celine Dion- Becaused you loved me