Abusive relationships

It doesn't matter if it's a guy hitting a girl or a girl hitting a guy. IT'S NOT OK! Abusive relationships are not healthy relationships. And if you think that he or she still gonna love you after he or she hits you, you're WRONG! Once a person lays a hand on another it will not stop (in most cases.)

Take it from me. I've been in a abusive relationship before and its not pretty. It was always arguments and hitting. I remember telling myself I will never let a guy lay their hands on me that way and if he does its done, but it wasn't. I stayed around, I was 15 years old and thought he was the love of my life. He said he'd never hit me or do anything to make me sad. Of course I believed him, because I loved him...so I thought. It first started with pushing to hitting on the face and arm then to the kicking. I finally was fed up with it and decided to stand up for myself. I knew I deserved better so I fought back. That didn't really do any good too cause it would just get worse. I finally left him and after that he begged for me back but you know what, its too late. I'm too good for someone like that, so I moved on.

Don't let love fool you. Love makes you blind and most times you can't see what is beyond that. Get yourself out of that relationship as soon as you can. Because if he/she did it once they WILL do it again. Just like the saying "once a player, will always be a player".

Abusive relationships don't have to just be physical, it can be mentally also. Don't let that person put you down by calling you names of all sorts.

Don't be scared to ask for help or advice, don't be scared to let other people know what's going on.
If you or anyone you know are going through an abusive relationship and need some professional advice here's a number to call.

WRIGHT COUNTY: 800-950-2203 (Task Force on Battered Women)

This video is very intense and real, I think that everyone should watch it even though it doesn't apply to you.  Just as long as you are aware of what can happen and how each person feels. 

Acceptable and non-acceptable protocals of dating

     Well first off i'm sure most of you girls and guys have experienced or know someone who has been dumped through text or email. SUCKS! and whoever that person was is a WUSS. For girls most would want the guys to ask us on a date in person or through the phone, NOT TEXT! Like seriously, how am I suppose to know its you who wants to go on a date with me and not someone else using your phone?

Here are some things on what NOT to do when it comes to dating:
1. Never (guys especially) ask someone if they want to go out with you, thats middle school stuff.

Girls these days want gentlemen not boys, and if you say that it wouldn't mean for you guys to date just that you want to hangout with her. So the next time you want to ask a girl out try saying "do you want to be my girlfriend" or " do you want to go on a date with me" then ask her there (that's way sweeter :)

2. Never dump someone through text or email or worse have your friend say its over for you

If you are too scared to dump that person or you feel like they're going to get hurt its better to actually talk to them then through text, email or from a friend. Also it tells a lot about a person from doing that it shows that you still maybe want to be friends and you can explain yourself throughly with emotions rather than through writing. Because then the person you are dumping can take what you're saying the wrong way and hate you for the rest of your life.

3. Don't try to be a player, because you WILL GET CAUGHT!

Its a small world out there and everyone knows everyone, words spread like crazy so unless you want to be known as a sneaky jerk then don't do it. This goes for guys and girls.

4. Don't give up so easily

Some people give up on their relationship or the other person when things go bad. Remember, if you love that person as much as you say you do then you'd try to fix it with them no matter what. If you guys have been through everything together, ups and downs then why not try to get through the problem you guys have right then? I see relationships kind of like the game of tag. One person is going to have to always chase the other person until they can get that person happy, the person that gets tagged then has to chase the other person. It has to be fair when it comes to that though. One person can't chase the other person forever. Honestly just for the record most girls want the guys to chase them too see how far they would go, but that can lead to problems too.  

Here are some things you should/can do:
1. Guys, girls love a romantic guy.

You don't always have to be romantic but buying flowers "just because" it would cheer her up. Taking her out on a date from time to time would be nice. (Going out to tacobells and mcdonalds does not count.) Somewhere not too pricey but affordable for both of you and of course you're paying. GIRLS, you can do the same. Ask her " do you want to go on a date with me?" especially if you two have been dating for a long time, it'll bring back those blushy first moment days. GIRLS, don't let the guys do it all too. Do something nice for them once in awhile too, guys would appreciate it.

2. Make sure there is TRUST between you both

Everyone knows this, if there's no trust then there's no relationship. Make sure you both let eachother know you can trust one another so there won't be any trouble along the way. Also make sure you keep that trust, don't just expect them to trust you and you go sneaking around.

3. Make sure you remind the person you love that you love them and why

To keep a relationship good and strong with that spark, you don't have to constantly but let that special person know that you still love them and not the idea of them. Some people tend to get too comfortable with the person they love and forget why they even want to be with them or love them. Also don't just say it, show them.

Movies on relationships

                        He's just not that into you

This movie is the type that has different stories in it and in the end they all connect somehow. I love movies like that and this movie especially is a good one. It tells about how some girls try really hard to try to get a guy or his attention but in the end it doesn't work out. There are many good actors and actresses in this movie including, Scarlett Johanson, Ginnifer Goodwin, Ben Affleck, Jennifer Aniston and Bradley Cooper. Most guys may think of this as a chick flick but you know, chick flicks are good for guys to watch too because they can learn from what girls expect from guys. I'd say that more guys should watch these kind of movies so they can see from different point of views also. All these movies all have different stories that connect in some way.

 Other Movies

 

Guys in General

Guys...can't live with them, can't live without them. I'm not going to say i know exactly how a guy's mind run, but from my previous experiences i would say that i know their personalities pretty well. There are 5 types of guys.
-Mr. Romantic
-Mr. Big shot
-Mr. Mature
-Mr. Man's Man
-Mr. Fun

Mr. Romantic is probably every women's dream to have. He's those type to send you flowers at work, send you cards, have candle light dinners with the most romantic view in the city. He's one who will show you the softer, caring more romantic side of men. Although in the long run he can tend to lose his pace of showering you with gifts, things can start working out again because he's a person that can be understanding.
Mr. Big shot is a very smart and clean guy. He likes to dress nice and look fresh and attend the most fabolous parties. He also works out and loves to look nice at all times, sometimes it can be a turn-off to some women when your guy takes longer in the bathroom then you. Because they are so up to date with fashion  Women tend to fall into like with these men because of their lavish ways of living. But when it comes to settling down, it can be tricky because all he's really looking for is fun. Who knows though, you might just be the one for him.
Mr. Mature is a bit older and much more responsible (at times). Depending on who you meet, some guys are still single and ready to mingle in their 30's and 40's. They're the one's that's are always hitting up the clubs looking for girls. Not all older men are like that, there's the other side who is successful and has a good job and home but just haven't find Ms.Right yet. They can be a bit more classy and take you to dinners rather than a movie night, and on top of that martini's are in the picture more than straight shots of tequlia. Mr. Mature are the one's to make you think about a long term relationship but sometimes that's not the case.
Mr. Man's Man is a very masculine guy that would defend you till the end of the world. He's not those types to have an evening out at a fancy restaurant he'll probably meet you over at the bar or something. They're the ones who won't show their true feelings about you in public but cares and loves you a ton. I'm sure if you're looking like those buff Jersey Shore guys girls would most defintely want you to have their backs.
Mr. Fun, he's the life of the party. Very outgoing and friendly rather at parties or family gatherings he can always make someone feel welcome. But be careful because a guy like that needs lots of attention and they don't do too well with long term relationships because of their constant needs to be social.

Girls will be Girls

Most questions guys will ask about girls are

-Why do they always go to the bathroom together?
-Why are they so sensitive?
-Why does it seem like they're always PMSing?
-Why are they so obessed with their hair?
-Why do they wear make-up?
-Why are they so insecure?
etc...

I'll be answering these questions and more indiviually throughout my blogs.

The answer to these questions are..."It's a GIRL THING!"
Ok well that's on top of everything i'm going to explain.

The Bathroom is like a gossip central for girls. Lets say there's a party and there's a bunch of people that you and your girl friend don't know or there's a guy that she really likes, that's the perfect place to go and talk. Girls always need a partner, someone to make them feel safe.We dont just go in and gossip, we DO use the bathroom too but that's the main reason. We can also use them as get aways. Say we need to call someone or call for a ride to get out of that party, that's a place we can go. Another example schools: girls talk smack in the bathrooms back and forth or write things about them and their boyfriend or crush. I remember those days. The whole bathroom thing i think will always be a mystery to guys that will never be solved because they won't understand. Although there's explanations guys and there questions will never stop.

GIRLS: feel free to correct me if i'm wrong.

Welcome!

Welcome to my blog. I hope you guys enjoy and learn from me and one another about relationships. This blog will be talking about long distance relationships, marriage, toxic relationships, abusive relationships and the roles of men and women.